I’ve been reading a book called The Journal of Best Practices: A Memoir of Marriage, Asperger Syndrome, and One Man’s Quest to Be a Better Husband by David Finch. David had been married for five years before being diagnosed with Asperger Syndrome. In the five years he had been married, issues stemming from his Asperger Syndrome had placed a severe strain on his marriage. This book is about his determination to identify and address those issues and make positive changes in his life to benefit his relationship.
As I’ve mentioned before, I’m interested in counseling theories that emphasize freedom and choice. For me, this book fit right within those categories. Viktor Frankl wrote that,
everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms – to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, stances, to choose one’s own way.
– Viktor E. Frankl. Man’s Search for Meaning (p. 66). Kindle Edition.
David Finch’s book is essentially about making choices to deal positively with the challenges arising from his Asperger Syndrome diagnosis. His book is a demonstration that, even when faced with limiting circumstances, the ability to make positive choices still exists.
This book captured a lot of what I think is important in successful relationships. I think relationships are often built on the efforts that we make and the sacrifices that we are willing to make for the person we love. I think a successful relationship is a partnership of two people willing to make efforts and sacrifices for each other. David Finch’s book is a great example of how important this is in helping a relationship to thrive and prosper.